This is the third part of a four part blog. To read Part I and II view my 2 previous blogs.

The Awakening, Part III
(author unknown)

You learn that you don’t know everything; its not your job to save the world and that you can’t teach a pig to sing. You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say NO. You learn that the only cross you bear is the one you choose to carry and that martyrs get burned at the stake.

Then you learn about love, romantic love and familial love; how to love, how much to give in love, when to stop giving, and when to walk away. You learn not to project your needs or your feelings onto a relationship.
You learn that you will not be more beautiful, more intelligent, more lovable Or more important because of the man on your arm or the child that bears your name.
You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would have them be. You stop trying to control people, situations, and outcomes.And, you learn that alone does not mean lonely…

And you look in the mirror and come to terms with the fact that you will never be a size 5 or a perfect 10.
And you stop trying to compete with the image in your head and agonizing over how you “stack up”.

You also stop working so hard at putting your feelings aside, smoothing things over and ignoring your needs. You learn that feelings of entitlement are perfectly OK…
And that it is your right to want things and ask for the things that you want and that Sometimes it is necessary to make demands.

You come to the realization that you deserve to be treated with love, kindness, sensitivity and respect and you won’t settle for less.
And you allow only the hands of a lover who cherishes you to glorify you with his touch… and in the process you internalize the meaning of self-respect.

And you learn that your body really is your temple. And you begin to care for it and treat it with respect. You begin eating a balanced diet, drinking more water and taking more time to exercise. You learn that fatigue diminishes the spirit and can create doubt and fear. So you take more time to rest.

And, just as food fuels the body, laughter fuels our soul. So you take more time to laugh and play.

You learn, that for the most part, in life you get what you believe you deserve… and that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy, You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for and that wishing for something to happen in different from working towards making it happen.

More importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success you need direction, discipline and perseverance. You also learn that no one can do it all alone and that it’s OK to risk asking for help.

You learn that the only thing you must truly fear is the great robber baron of all time FEAR itself.
You learn to step right into and through your fears because you know that whatever happens you can handle it and to give in to fear is to give away the right to live your life on your terms.

Check back Monday for Part IV!

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This is the second part of a four part blog.  Read my previous post to read part I.

The Awakening, Part II
(author unknown)

So you learn to stand on your own and take care of yourself and in the
process a sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance.

You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they are and to overlook their short comings and human frailties and in the process
a sense of peace and contentment is born of forgiveness.

You realize that much of the way you view yourself, and the world around you is a result of all the messages and opinions that have been ingrained into your psyche.

And you begin to sift through all the crap you’ve been fed about how you should behave,
how you should look and how much you should weigh, what you should wear and where
you should shop and what you drive , how and where you should live and what you
should do for a living, who you should sleep with, who you should marry and what you
should expect of a marriage, the importance of having and
raising children or what you owe your parents.

You learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view.
And you begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what you really stand for.
You learn the difference between wanting and needing and you begin to discard the
doctrines and values you’ve outgrown or never should have bought into to begin with
and in the process you learn to go with your instincts.
 
You learn that it is truly in giving that we receive.

And that there is power and glory in creating and contributing and you stop maneuvering
through live merely as a “consumer” looking for your next fix.

You learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the outdated ideals of a
by gone era but the mortar that holds together the foundation upon which you must build a life.

Check back Thursday for Part III

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Recently I came across a beautiful essay a client shared with me several years ago. I read it with my support groups this week and it seemed to resonate with everyone. A few people suggested that I share it via my blogs. It is rather lengthy for a blog so I’ve broken it up into 4 sections. I will post a new section on Monday and Thursday mornings until I have posted it in its entirety. Enjoy!

The Awakening, Part I
(author unknown)

A time comes in your life when you finally get it…
When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice insider your head cries out ENOUGH!
Enough fighting and crying or struggling to hold on.
And, like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum,
your sobs begin to subside, you shudder once or twice, you blink back your tears and through a mantle of wet lashes you begin to look at the world through new eyes.

This is your AWAKENING.

You realize that its time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change or for happiness, safety and security to come galloping over the next horizon.
You come to terms with the fact that he is not Prince Charming and you are not Cinderella
and that in the real world there aren’t always fairytale endings (or beginnings for that matter).
And that any guarantee of “happily ever after” must begin with YOU.
And in the process a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.

You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and that not
everyone will always love, appreciate, or approve of who and what you are
…and that’s OK (They are entitled to their own views and opinions).
And you learn the importance of loving and championing yourself
and in the process a sense of new found confidence is born of self-approval.

You stop bitching and blaming other people for the things the did to you (or didn’t do for you) and you learn that the only thing you can really count on
is the unexpected. You learn that people don’t always say what they mean or mean what they say and that not everyone will always be there for you
and that it’s not always about you.

Check back Monday for Part II.

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